| HOW TO ASK YOUR FRIEND FOR A DATE |
Posted by:
PARVEEN GUPTA
Source: ABHISHEK
03/03/2008 |
Most people agree that good friends make great girlfriends and
boyfriends. You've even seen the wedding invitations that read "Today I
Marry my Best Friend." Dating someone who has been a friend decreases
the awkwardness of getting to know one another.
you already like and trust your friend and have a shared past, a
context in which to create a new relationship. In dating a friend you
aren't starting over but adding a new dimension to a relationship that
you already value.
That said, trying to start a dating relationship with a friend can
be like skating on thin ice. What if she considers you more like a
brother than a lover? What is he doesn't want to risk losing your
friendship and refuses you? Is it all worth it?
The last is a question that only you can answer. If you decide that
you are ready to swallow your fears and ask your friend for a date,
keep the following suggestions in mind:
Be Clear
"I'd, uh, kinda maybe like to take you out sometime."
My great friend John and I were having another one of our
late-night conversation marathons when, in a moment of silence, he had
nervously blurted out those words. He stared at me, waiting for a
response.
Be Prepared
Be prepared for your friend's reaction. Anticipate questions.
Anticipate him or her asking you for time to consider. You may even
want to offer it by saying something like, "I know this is a change/big
step/something you may not have ever thought about. Feel free to take a
few days to consider it." This will allow your friend to truly consider
the effects dating may have on your relationship. It will prevent
him/her from making a rash decision or sharing a gut reaction. It is
also courtesy to your friend to whom the thought of dating may have
never even occurred.
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